One of the things I keep finding myself saying to my coaching clients is that there is no “there” to get to, the work is rarely “done” in terms of personal growth, changing habits, or being more of the person you want to be.
We set off on a personal growth journey to learn something about ourselves, to figure out how we’re getting in our own way, and to find new ways of being that are more in alignment with what we want for ourselves, whether it’s in a relationship, a business venture, or a new endeavor. We see a pattern in ourselves that is causing us problems, and decide that we will change it.
Yet for most of us, this type of change isn’t a one-time event where you take a class, learn a thing or two, and be done with it. More often, there’s a way change happens, somewhat unconsciously, that involves ongoing experimentation, trial-and-error, and practice, followed by self-assessment, integrating the learning, and re-calibrating our efforts for the next time that pattern shows up.
It’s really more of an ebb and flow: are we moving closer to our ideal, or further away?
It’s said that nothing is static, that things are always expanding or contracting. And in my view, personal growth fits into that category. There is always movement—the question is, which way are you moving? Are you taking steps towards your desired self, or away from?
I’m in the middle of The 28 Day Gutsy Life Challenge right now, with twelve amazing women. And with each woman, I see them taking steps towards more courage, more passion, more faith in themselves. It’s so cool to see, because it truly boils down to this: in every day, in every moment, you are at choice. You get to choose moving towards something, or you can choose to retreat, away from it. It happens in little, tiny moments as well as big, show-stopping ones. And each time, you get to choose.
What are you choosing to move towards?
PS: I’ll be offering The 28 Day Gutsy Life Challenge again, most likely in the fall. It usually sells out, so if you want to be notified when registration is open, make sure you’re on my mailing list!
